Wednesday, October 16, 2013

31 Days to a Family Closet: The Four-Year-Old *Brand New* Sweater

How did your 30 minute clean sweep go? Have you moved to other closets around your home? Keep setting your timer and clearing out what you don't use or need. I know it is hard work. You are doing an awesome job! Keep going!

The sweater I have been hinting at the past week. The one I bought three four years ago. The one that has been sitting unworn for the past four years. It is in the donation box!

I try this sweater on at least once a year. Each time thinking to myself, "maybe this will be the year I fall in love with this sweater." It still hasn't happened. I have wanted to love this sweater. I have tried to make myself like it, but I just don't. For four years I have been trying to justify my purchase.

I don't have any attachment to this sweater. It holds no memories except the shopping trip with a dear friend when I purchased it. Why have I been holding so tightly to this unimportant object? I have thought about donating it before, but I just can't seem to let it go. I have been living with the guilt from buyer's remorse for four years.

The more I think about why I still have this sweater I think it comes down to being frugal. I don't often pay full price for items and rarely for clothing. I bought this sweater on sale, not clearance. For four years I have been trying to validate my frivolous bargain. No more. I will not allow the guilt to fill my drawers I will pass this sweater on to someone who will actually wear it. I have learned from my hasty purchase. I second and third guess myself before I purchase sweaters now. This spills over to other items but sweaters have extra criticism before they make their way to the checkout counter.

Do you have a sweater like mine? Or is it a pair of boots or that pencil skirt you couldn't resist? If you are not using or wearing the item but you still can not let it go, stop and think back to when you bought those boots. Why did you buy them? Why are you not wearing them today? What is causing you to hold tight? Guilt? Peer pressure? Stop holding on. Release the guilt when you donate the boots and allow the freedom to fill your closet and your heart.

I'm linking up with the Nester for her 31 Days series.

This post is part of the 31 Days to a Family Closet series. If you have questions about your family closet leave a comment I would love to help!

Andi and Brad have been married since 2002. They have five squishers who keep them on their toes. She is a second generation home educator. In her spare time Andi creates and sells handmade goodies in her shop, Andi Gould Designs.


  1. Just came upon this post of yours, love it. I have a few things that I just can't seem to get rid of. Mostly due to guilt because they were bought impulsively or because someone gave it to me and I feel terrible to give it up. But when will I ever wear it??? Nice to see you were able to move on from your sweater!

    - J,

  2. Oh man am I late to the game in responding to your sweet comment. I'm so glad you found me and I hope you can gather up some bravery and free yourself from that guilt. Just think about others you could bless from your impulsive shopping! I just popped over to your sweet blog. And we are Crochet Mood Blanket 2014 buddies! Happy hooking! xoxo


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