Monday, June 03, 2013

Bench Girls, It's a Thing




I have these friends. These women who have said yes, over and over and over.


Yes to God.
Yes to family.
Yes to homeschooling.
Yes to book club.
Yes to dreaming.


Calling these friends “ladies” or “women,” we have decided makes us feel old. Old, like we belong in syndication with the Golden Girls. I call Dorothy! So we stick with girls. We girls have come together and started this roller coaster of a ride. We are saying yes to God, and His dream for us as a group.




We have started using this hashtag and calling ourselves the bench girls. It made sense to us, but now I'm receiving questions. How did God bring us together? How did we come to have a group dream? What is a bench girl?

In a nutshell, a bench girl is someone who is purposeful in making time for you. Someone who gives you a chance to tell your story. Someone whose story becomes so intertwined with your own it is hard to separate beginning and end. Emily Freeman from Chatting at the Sky wrote about the benches in her neighborhood several years ago. A real place to sit and make friendships. A place to tell your story. She wrote a follow-up last month. What if you sat on a bench, now what? What if that bench wasn't right for you? She ended with this:

Instead of asking what you need, begin to consider what you have to offer.
Is that a scary question?
Do you believe you have something to offer?
Do you see a need for a different kind of bench in your own life?
Are you waiting for someone else to build it?
What if they’re waiting for you?

We have found an amazing bench with each other. But we are still asking: What do we have to offer? How can we extend this bench to others? Let me back up a bit. I want to tell you how I met these girls, my bench girls. I want you to understand how God has been building this bench before I ask you to sit with us. Know there is always room for you on our benchJoin me this week as I introduce you to my bench girls and begin to share our dream with you.

Andi and Brad have been married since 2002. They have five squishers who keep them on their toes. She is a second generation home educator. In her spare time Andi creates and sells handmade goodies in her shop, Andi Gould Designs.

1 comment:

  1. oooh...I think Kelly may fight you for the Dorothy title. It's all good to me, I'd rather be Rose. ;)
    Sister girl, I love our bench and I'm so thrilled to be on this journey with you.
    ((hugs))

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